The Real Reason Introverts Doubt Themselves

And how to finally trust your mind again

Introverts don’t just “make decisions.”

They research, analyze, map out every possible outcome—including the consequences of the consequences.

It’s not overthinking. It’s self-preservation.

If you’re someone who takes days, weeks, or even years to act on something important, trust me, you’re not crazy. You’re built different.

Today, I want to show you why we go through this mental loop—and how to finally break free.

Let’s get real. Most introverts struggle with trust.

Not just trusting others, but trusting themselves.

Maybe it’s trauma. Maybe it’s a betrayal you never got over.

But now, when life presents a big decision—about love, work, your future—you freeze.

Why?

Because once you commit, it’s real.
You don’t do “casual.” You don’t do “maybe.”

Once you're in, you’re in forever. And it makes total sense to take your time.

And that’s a beautiful thing. But it can also keep you stuck.

Like not asking for a raise thinking it is too early or not asking out the person you have a crush on.

And afterward?

Regret.
Self-hate.
That quiet voice saying, “Why didn’t I just do it?”

So let’s ask the real question: What’s actually stopping you?

What makes you doubt yourself?

Let's dissect it step by step and get to the root of the problem.

Self-doubt stems from inner conflict. It feels like your mind is split into two halves. One half wants to do it and the other half stops you from doing it. It's kind of schizophrenia. A condition where a person believes in things that aren't real or true.

But there is a big difference between you and a person with schizophrenia. You have the ability to rationalise while the other person cannot. He has lost that ability.

So lets use our capacity to reason and get to the root of this inner conflict.

You have a highly sensitive nervous system which simply means everything you experience affects you 10x deeper than a regular person.

You don’t just “feel.”
You absorb.

Mentally. Physically. Emotionally. Spiritually.

Let's understand this through an example.

Imagine your intelligent, smart, well read person. You have a great taste in music, art and literature.

Now you went to a small house party. You’re chilling with some people, half of them are drunk. Someone starts talking about the theory of evolution. And how it’s all bullsh*t.

You have read Darwin's “Origin of Species” and have obsessed about it for years. You interfere and give a logical rational explanation. And the other person says,

“Science is a cult. They have been fooling us for all these years. It’s there to keep us from the truth. It's all made up by the people who control the world.”

Now before you argue with his statement in your head (which I think you have already started) I want you to pause.

Your nature is such that, no matter how illogical that statement may be, it may create a conflict inside you.

You know it’s nonsense…

But your brain still whispers, “Wait… what if?”

That’s what deep sensitivity does. It creates inner conflict.

Your rational mind says one thing. Your emotional mind second-guesses it.

Because your mind is wired in a way that it wants to rationalise and understand and analyse everything first.

And as I discussed earlier, it splits your mind into 2 halves. One is connected with reason and facts and the other to the illusion presented by the other person.

These kind of experiences happen in all parts of our life and become the cause of self-doubt.

This conflict shows up everywhere:

• A failed date → “Maybe I’m not attractive.”

• A job rejection → “Maybe I’m not good enough.”

• A failed project → “Maybe I’ll never succeed.”

These aren’t just thoughts. They become beliefs. Ones you carry for years.

As an introvert you think too deep and feel too much. It's both a gift and a curse.

That's why it's important to be very aware of these delusions in your life that splits your mind into two halves and make you doubt yourself.

I've lived that “split mind” life for years.

Taking advice from people with more followers, more money, more “proof.”

I betrayed my own values, thinking they knew better. And in doing so, I lost touch with with reality and who I was.

But I broke out of it. It took years to reclaim that trust.

And so can you. Here’s how:

1. Everything Is Just Someone’s Opinion

Socrates once said,

“The only thing I know is that I know nothing.”

That’s real intelligence.
Not pretending to know. But admitting uncertainty.

Everyone’s trying to sell you certainty—advice, blueprints, step-by-steps.

But here’s the truth: Most of it is just autobiography.

For example, what is God or who is God? For me, it’s the energy that creates a 100 m tall tree out of a tiny seed. For you, it could be deity or someone described religious texts.

My point here is not to define God, my point here is whatever may be your definition, just make sure it's yours. Make sure it has come out of your own reason and not from someone else's opinion.

And once you arrived at an opinion based on your own reason, stick with it no matter what people say.

This will give your mind the certainty that is essential for your peace and keeping out of any kind of delusion.

So ask yourself:
Is this your belief?
Or someone else’s?

Because once you define your truth—own it.
Don’t let the noise shake it loose.

2. Do What Actually Works for You

I tried starting a personal branding business in the beginning of 2024.

It looked smart. I got clients. It made money.

But I was miserable.

Why?

Because I didn’t choose it. I got talked into it.

I was constantly at war with my mind. Struggling to write content, forcing ideas that didn’t feel like mine.

Until I quit.

And returned to what I do best: writing.

I made the mistake of trusting other people's advice instead of listening to my own reason and respecting my gift.

I paid the price. Lived in a state of delusion and constant anxiety for a months before quitting.

The lesson?

If it’s not aligned with your nature, it will collapse.

3. Trust Nature’s Gift: Reason

If someone told you jumping into a well would make you rich, would you do it?

Of course not. Because your reason wouldn’t allow it.

Every creature has instincts.

But humans have something more: rational thought.

Problem is, we’ve been conditioned to doubt it. To outsource it to influencers, gurus, and bookshelves of opinions.

Nature has given every organism on this Earth certain amount of intelligence that helps them make decisions for themselves and survive.

The only difference between them and humans is that we have been brainwashed by marketing gimmicks to question and doubt that intelligence.

No matter what people say, the only thing that can help you become someone or achieve anything in life is your own reason.

Your reason is the most powerful compass you’ll ever own.

Learn to think for yourself. Stop following advice and opinions of other people blindly.

Remember, it's their first experience at life too, just like you.

No matter what you believe in– nature, God or an alien civilisation that created humans– that thing has given us an instrument to survive and achieve things that can keep us happy and peaceful.

And that instrument is your capacity to reason. Trust it.

Final thought

Self-doubt, confusion, fear of action—these aren’t flaws in your personality.

They’re the byproduct of a highly sensitive system, living in a loud, chaotic world.

I’ve explained this in my book “Born to Stand Out” how high sensitivity keeps introverts from expressing themselves authentically.

Your depth is your power. But without trust, it becomes your prison.

It’s a superpower, but also introverts biggest curse.

Don’t let overthinking turn into paralysis. Don’t let borrowed opinions replace your own truth.

The world needs more people like you—people who think before they leap, who care deeply, and who are finally ready to trust their own voice.

Learn to trust your reason. Learn to stand by your mind.

Because when you do, you stop hesitating. You stop doubting.

And you start living.

Stay blessed,
Karun

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